I guess there goes my fear again, Puppy. I totally hear what you're saying and I agree. He's just starting to be more "around" if you know what I mean. He just came up for lunch, albeit he left early, and he was so close to me last night. We're going out for DSS's bday tonight, and he agreed to do a family night at the fish and game on Friday. He's just seeming to want to be around a bit more now, although it may just be that she's busy at work or something.
Anyway, if I tell him that we have decisions to make and I want him to end it, I'm afraid he'll just "say fine, see you later then." Again, it's the introductions to our friends. That's exactly how he brought me into his life. I keep focusing on that because it's his history.
I watched one of the Dr. Phil videos on the intervention and I was wondering if I could use one of the things he said. How about this instead?
"I have decided that this isn't working for me. I will not live in an open marriage, and have you lie to me about it. I know all about you and (OW), and it's incredibly disrespectful. I value myself too much to keep doing this. I want to give this M my all and see if we can revive it, and that's impossible with a third party involved."
