....About foot rub and massage, its part of our live 4 to 5 times a week. But guess what, I'm the one geting sexually arroused just by touching her precious body. She usually fell asleep and 1 out of 10 times it ended in sex. We usually do it both naked. I could be burning hard but she doesn't even let me touch her intimate parts. I tried to avoid it but its very dificult. She hit very hard ...ouch.
Let me see if I have the math right or not....4 to 5 times per week of mutually naked foot massage at 1 out of 10 times resulting in sex is sex resulting from foot massage once every other week. If you were getting sex without foot massages once every other week and this was bringing it up to weekly, that is quite an improvement (doubling your sex life, plus as you say causing lots of arousal in a way that is probably emotionally healthier than starting at a computer screen full of porn).
Maybe you can ask if you can start back massage or neck/face massage and see if you can up your ML per week statistics?
Good luck to you, it sounds like you are doing a lot that is right on target. Especially figuring out her Languages of Love. I now when my wife started to feel loved in her languages of love, it really changed her attitude toward me.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
