I am not trying to change my wife, the only person I can change is me, what I am trying to do is save my marriage, when we were together having our problems she wanted to go to counseling, we went and talked to the pastor at our chucrh and we thought it was marriage counseling but it wasn't.
We have never been to a marriage counselor, that is one reason why I brought it up, but unless she decides she wants to see a marriage counselor she won't go and I can't force her to go see one.
I have been reading DR, actually I have now read it a second time, and will re read it several more times and I am trying to implement the strategy in the book, so hopefully it will work, but what hasn't worked in not communicating with her as that is probably the biggest problem we have in our marriage and it made other problems get bigger and worse.
I don't want to get into playing games with my wife, I want to make changes and choices that will make our lives better.
