Jak, It was my dance teacher who said that I needed more presence when I lead. I was leading her in the Hustle where I have little confidence or experience. However, you are correct in that it is my responsiblity to manage my own anxiety, and that I will need to do something to move us forward.
I made a date with my W to practice our Hustle routine and some ballroom steps last night, intermingled with watching Dancing With the Stars. We were up to 12AM. I'm sleepy at work today, but it's worth it.
I was willing to accept her feedback regarding ballroom dancing. She wants what the instructor was discussing in her last lesson--tone. Tone is what separates casual versus the better dancers. It's a consistent awareness and intention of one's body throughout the dance. My W thinks I need to be more consistent in this area--she's right. At the jazz venue over the weekend, I got rattled because it was an unfamiliar venue to me, so let my skills deteriorate, which frustrated my W.
She thinks I'm doing wonderfully with the Hustle. There are no complaints in this area.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
