No, sorry, the second and third floor are full but not paying rent. The first floor is where he's been seeing OW, and that's empty. It's embarrassing but the tenants know also.
I'm thinking through how I'm going to confront DH. First question I have is where do I do it? In the house (he can run away), restaurant (he loves food), MIL house (he may feel pressured, but it would give her a chance to tell him she supports us working on it)
Here's my list. I know it's long, I just feel like it's all important...
1. I know about the A 2. I respect myself too much to live in an open M 3. We can save this M and I want to do that 4. You're hurting me, the kids, and your family deeply by your actions 5. I will no longer facilitate your using the apartment as your personal sex palace. It will be closed to you and rented. 6. I will not baby-sit the children while you are out committing infidelity 7. I love 'friends' very much, they've become part of my family- and you've hurt me deeply with what you told them about me and by introducing OW to them as your soul mate
Next two are iffy, I know... I would love to say them just to make myself feel better... and because on some level he KNOWS this stuff, he's read the books, we've BTDT, you know. 8. Only 1% of affairs survive to M and of them, over 75% end in D. Once the "in love, you're my soul mate and we're so in sync" chemicals subside, you will have to deal with reality. The reality is you are building this affair based on lies, deceit, and pain 9. If you put as much energy into this M as you did hiding the A, we'd be very happy right now.
