She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

[steady]

I'm actually terrified that she won't even care that I'm home.

tbart this is catastrophizing. You are thinking it's the end of the world or your life if she won't care that you're home.

Just take that as a given - that she won't care that you're home. Even better, take it as she will resent that you are home because now you'll be in her face reminding her constantly of where she is at.

So if you take this as a given, what happens to you? Do you disappear? Does your life come to a screeching halt?

How about trying this on for size:

It would hurt if she didn't care I was home. I would feel some pain and sorrow. I will feel rejected and that would suck. I can survive it and my life will be fine. I can feel the pain without having to cause myself to suffer.