Into my arms... #70

[awest1217]

I am with June on this one. I know that you are completely for your marriage and completely want this to work, which I want for you, that also means that H has to step up as well.

If something like this happens again, and it probably will because H hasn't told you everything and even if he wanted to he can't remember everything, and you blow up, maybe you can come to him later and apologize for blowing up because it shows him you are human too. Then explain, calmly, that you are hurt by what you found out because it is bringing up old feelings. You can then let him know that in the future you will try to not blow up, but you need him to help you (giving him some manly power if he will do it) by answering your question so you can put the new hump behind you quickly.

You can't just wipe this under the rug, but you can ask a simple question "when did S meet OW" get a simple answer, and then you can sweep it under the rug. My issue is he didn't just come out and say yes they met.

I am feeling for you and hope things go well later. Try to relax a little.

Also why not go away with him for Easter. He is asking so have some fun. Start building the good memories you need to establish the great R you want.