I think what is stopping me from detaching is when D13 brings him up every day. And when she comes home from her visits she goes on and on. H I know is telling and saying things in front of her to get back to me. I stopped reacting at the end of Jan.
I would call or text and tell him to please knock it off and of course he would flip his lid.
I know hanging on is toxic, but I just don't know how to drop the rope. All I do is think and think. I wish I was as strong as you are and a lot of people on this board, but I'm not. I was hoping the antidepressants would help, I guess be my magic pill but nope. Yes, I had to go through 4 of them to get to the one that is helping with my panic attacks but I'm still so depressed.
How do I stop exposing myself to toxicity, when D13 tells all after a visit? Just hearing Daddy this and Daddy that and then she will say Daddy said he is going to do this or that. Now I know and want her to be happy with her visits and I don't want her to be afraid to discuss them but I really believe that is what is holding me back.
For instance, 3 months ago he told her he was moving to another city (a city he couldn't stand), well, he has a year lease until Sept. where he is at now. Then just on Sunday when she came home she said Daddy is moving to here now (opposite direction from the city that he was thinking 3 months ago).
H told me he can't afford the apartment he is living in now, but then tells D13 he is going to rent this house in another city. So I get to listen to this and it rips me apart! Any suggestions?
