Easter is a fun time to be outside. Hopefully the weather is nice there.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Since Easter is "mine" this year per the decree, I invited exH to come in when he brings the kids back to me Sat. morning. They will discover their Easter baskets (Bunny has to come early this year as we are traveling to my sister's for Easter), then he can stay for a quick candy hunt in the back yard....
Not sure in your case since she has them, how you could do that without sounding like you are inviting yourself?
I think if you concentrated on the holiday itself and not on the actual custody aspects. You're there to praise together with your girls. Besides it's tough to do an Easter egg hunt outside of Easter.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Does your church do anything special for its Easter service? I am going to my sister's this year for Easter, so I will be at her church instead of mine.
Make sure you do something for yourself that day if you are going to be kid-free. If the weather is nice, maybe something outdoors?
My church is doing Easter Mass Saturday night which takes care of obliation Sunday morning. W and D12 are coming to easter mass with me. D8 will be spending the night at her grandma's house.
Sunday I may or may not be invited to W's mom's house for a family get together after they get out of services. I haven't heard yet. W said she wanted to invite me and would ask her mom. Who knows what will pan out.
If not, maybe I will drive an hour north to the casino and play some roulette. I have a decent system that does pretty well.
Kevin
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Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
"W said she wanted to invite me and would ask her mom."
This sucks. They're your kids and if your W thinks its okay for you all to do something together then she should bypass her mom altogether. Especially since they don't get along that well.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
"W said she wanted to invite me and would ask her mom."
This sucks. They're your kids and if your W thinks its okay for you all to do something together then she should bypass her mom altogether. Especially since they don't get along that well.
Ya, I know. I'm used to it though. No point in arguing with W about it. I have been down that road before and the results didn't pan out when I have in the past. W's mom always decides who can be part of what and who can't and everyone else cowers to her. Nothing changed there.
I will just do something else if it doesn't pan out and if it does, I will join them. I don't know if they are doing an easter egg hunt or not.
I was with them all last night to celebrate W's stepdads birthday for dinner and cake. He apparently wanted me there for the family party with the kids. I am usually invited if they want to make sure the kids are there. They all went out and did the adult version this past saturday night and that I was not invited to and never am when it is just the adults. Honestly, when I am with W's family, it feels so completely fake anyways. It is like everyone pretends to be happy I am there, but then I am never invited or talked to about anything else when it is adult related. And actually, I am having to fake that I am happy to be there because I really don't want to be there since I know how they feel about me for the most part.
It is ok. I know where I stand. It doesn't bother me. It almost more bothers me that I am actually invited to anything with them.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
It is kind of funny really. They pretend to be glad I am there and I pretend to be glad I am there. In reality, they don't want me there and in reality, I don't want to be there. It is all a very fake situation. lol.
On a bright note, work is going good. I am having to do some work from home tonight, but that is not usually the case. I still very much love my job. I am picking up swimming for exercise and it feels great.
I might make a trip out to Tyler TX Saturday with a friend who won a prize. Tyler is about an hour and a half away. But I will be back in time for mass that night. And I am planning on having barbq with my good friend Jon2911 Saturday.
Just not sure about Friday night or Sunday yet. That is still up in the air.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
