How do I expose the affair

[june72]

mb28,
I posted a very long and laborious thread quite a while ago. I challenge you to try and read it. It's lengthy-lol. You can click on my name and read my first posts.

There was no A. So I think our scenario was a millions times easier than the sitch you are in. He told me he was done about a thousand times and lots really hurtful stuff over and over but his ACTIONS were showing differently. He felt his kids would always be a priority and for that reason would not leave the house but want to live as coparents till I D'ed him. His words. He was very distraught about the possibility of being a part time dad.

I too was very worried for the children.

I honestly was done in Sept of 2009. I let him know that a D would be coming eventually when I had the money and the youngest was in school. That I acn not live in a house with a man that does not love me or want to be with me. He caved. I felt the love deep down.

He actions and behaviors (my actions and behaviors too really) were not to hot. I hope we are learning and growing from this.


I know that I can live with or without him and be FINE! I really can, I will not fear a D. He decides he is done with me ever again- I will go to a lawyer that day.

With all that we have been through I am not sure I could deal with an affair in the future. I probably would throw int he towel to be honest. B/c to me that is the ultimate in betrayal. (yet at one point in the marraige I thought I could possible look for an OM b/c things were so bad at home and I did not want to D and hurt my children- I was very, very unenlightened then). I never ever cheated and never ever will. My conviction is strong on that. If I feel the marriage turning south again I will fight like hell to get it going again. I will not look for a quick fix.


In hindsight, we have talked about this and I think our huge love for our children and desire to to what is best for them is what catapulted ups through the really horrible periods.