Last week I got 14 text messages from H, all that I ignored because I was 1)NC, and 2) they didn't really have anything to do with the kids or ask a question.
4 more text messages today, thinks like "good morning" to "why don't you say good morning to me" to "fine, be like that".
What do I do? It's not about reconciliation. It's not about parenting. It's not an apology. It's not about our marriage. It's not about working towards moving home.
But I feel rude not replying, and I don't see how it could become about any of the above if I don't reply.
But I also think he's doing this to get a text to show his L that we are "attempting reconciliation" so he can move the separation date to his favor!!!
And I'm really not up for another ride on the emotional/MLCer roller coaster.
He could TELEPHONE me or go out with me to talk about these things, but no, it's just TEXT MESSAGE - a means of recording a message.
But I really don't want to be D, and if I never speak to him then that's exactly what I will be!!!
I hate this!
Maybe I should just text back that if he wants to talk we can chat tonight (his night with the kids) or he can CALL me.
Though I have to talk to him about the kids tonight, which is sort of more important, because I think the stress of the separation and everything else is starting to wear on the teenager and he's starting to act out and needs co-parenting rules.
