I also reccomend exposure to OP's family and ESPECIALLY thier SPOUSE if the OP is married... DEFINITELY there.
The thing is, the OP is attacking your marraige, an aggressive offensive. Exposure is a reverse offensive to take the fight back to THEM. Put them on the defensive and on the run.
If exposure goes well and the friends, family, etc are spurning the cheaters away, then they can only hide in secret on their own... and they will start picking away at each other.
If you get get them outsted from their social circles then you have taken a huge safety zone out of the affair.
Affairs start in secret, but they eventually have to be revealed somehow at sometime.. if you expose it as hurtful while still married, it shames them to the point that the excitement of the affair becomes a frustration instead.. a proverbial monkey on their back.. one which only ENDING the affair can rid them of.
As long as you keep maintaining publically that you will accept your cheating spouse back, and no one will have anythign tod ow ith the OP socially... the spouse has few choices BUT to accept the spouse's offer to repair the marriage and let the OP go.
This is NOT easy to do, you need to organize people AND get them to take a FIRM stand with a loved one... which most people shy away from. You need to be a powerful motivator.
