Yes she had her moments. I don't think this is a conscious decision. She can't explain why she is doing it.
Think about that, she can't explain why she's doing it.
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I was afraid of the "tagging". That is exactly what she is doing. I have asked if she was interested in the sex because of that, her reply was "it's familiar with you". As soon as she heard other women are sniffing around is when the "attraction" started.
That's why I mentioned the tagging, you were starting to move on, she wants to keep you in your place, she doesn't want you to be controlled by another woman, she enjoys the control she has over you.
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The more I act like I'm seeing OP the more drawn she is to me. She also see's the confidence and my attitude are changed. I'm being more the man I used to be. It would be nice if she was attracted to me again, but my gut tells me otherwise.
Trust your gut instinct, it's there for a reason.
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I'm doing my best to stay emotionally detached when it comes to sex. How do I convey this is not the kind of relationship I want?
You tell her this isn't the kind of relationship you want. She either steps up to the plate and becomes part of a new relationship between the two of you or she leaves because she doesn't want that. If she just wants sex you have to decide whether that's good enough for you, we can't decide that for you, if sex is all you need right now, stick with it if the sex is good, if you really want a relationship and she doesn't and she won't change, you have to decide when enough is enough and move on to a new relationship with someone new.
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I've tried the "not this time, going out". She was bummed but didn't get too upset. I'll try the "with a friend" next time.
If someone else is in the picture she isn't suffering from lack of sex, oh well she only gets sex with one person today instead of two, she'll survive somehow LOL!
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Because of our schedules now she would have very little opportunity to be with anyone else. I'm not putting it past her however.
"she would have very little opportunity"....famous last words ;-)
It's up to you Jake, what do you want, you're allowed to make a decision, it's your life. Is sex alone good enough? If so keep banging away, if it's not, then you will have to decide when to move on. It could also be that when you move on, she wakes up and wants to have a relationship with you (and then again maybe not), life is funny like that.
