Since I last posted, H has called my bff who we were going on Easter vacation with and me a couple of times. He first texted me to book the hotel. No reference to what has happened.
To make a long story short, his words were "I didnt want to put salt on the wound, yes she has met her as we were coming out of the house one morning and I introduced them, dont know if they talk bla bla bla..." I asked him if how come he isnt sick and tired of being worried about what I may find out and by whome. He said very much so. I asked him why cant he then just come clean or at least be honest when I ask specific questions...
He wants to draw a line, get us strong enough to be able to handle the diclosure. He brought up how "he handles NY" and I got furious. First of all it is not the same and second he hasnt asked me anything and I havent lied. But anyway, his usual way of dodging things.
He said he is the only one humiliated in this story, that he is afraid if he tells me things he will hurt our realationship etc etc. He is completely deaf to my needs. I told him exactly what awest said, that last night I didnt go looking for anything, his lie just popped up, and that lie set me back 50 steps. It wouldnt have been the same if I had not asked. But I had and he swore he was honest. I told him he burnt his chances, over and over again, I expect him to be a man as he said and he ends up being a pussy. Yes, I said pussy.
He said he understands my feelings, but that he is more logical to know what I want will hurt us (he probably wants to tell me he proposed to her!!! from the way it sounds). He said lets together draw a line and not allow the past to hurt us any longer. I agreed and said right now, it i sthe present that hurts me. He said he feels I am looking for excuses to give up. I listed all the chances I have given him and asked him if he feels a person can have so much at some point and NOT any more. He agreed he has gotten away with a lot.
I ended the call. He called back and said "just so that you know, I would love it if we went away for Easter". I didnt respond.
My bff told him that if he wants US he needs to be ho nest and talk to me. She refused to get in the middle as he asked her. K
