Into my arms... #70

[awest1217]

I do agree that some of the stuff needs to be let go. Why look for problems where there aren't any? Why wake up a sleeping giant? If you do have to ask something, make sure it is something about your relationship and not the past as I said before. However this time, the questions came up because someone else brought up the situation. I understand the need to ask H about S and BiL knowing OW because this is brand new information. The part where I think H dropped the ball is trying to cover up OW and S meeting. Maybe K could have asked nicer and she has said she needs to work on that part, but H should be forth coming with the information and if he doesn't remember when just saying yes they did meet right away instead of drawing it out I think would have made things a lot easier. Now that is just me talking.

K I think you are doing great! We all come up to circumstances where we could have handled it differently, but the best is to learn from the mistakes and move forward. Next time you may not start out by saying "i am tired of the lies", but you are very strong to continue working on this marriage and it shows that your heart is truly in it.