WAH in MLC with PA

[DiamondGirl]

So SIL texted me that H is furious that she warned me of his plan to take the money from the account. He knows the money came in and I transferred it to my own account.

H said he plans to quit school and move to OW's house. I told SIL 'then so be it'. If he's meant to do that, he will. I said I knew it was painful to see him like this, but he is an adult making choices and there are consequences to what he chooses.

She started to blame me for not helping him out financially but I told her that it was his choice to leave me and our family for OW. That we are separated and I should not have to support him financially for the choice he made. She said she wasn't trying to blame me but she is just hurting seeing him this way. Said she doesn't even know him anymore and they used to be so close.

She is hurting because he is her brother and I understand that. I am hurting because this alien is so far from the man I married and he seems to sink to lower levels character-wise with each action he takes.

She is worried that he will try and go after the house now and make me sell it to get his portion. I told her that if he does, he does, and it was meant to be that way.

I feel sad... because the man I married is so far removed from this alien here... and because no one else seems to believe there's a possibility he'll ever come back to sanity except me.

I can feel an acceleration (desperation?) in his actions that I am interpreting as getting close to bottom.. but who knows...
Wishful thinking maybe...

I wonder if they ever just slide to bottom instead of actually crashing and burning...

Thinking about going to a L to see what steps need to be done to protect H from maybe trying to take the mortgage payment money when I put it in the joint account and to find out how I can prevent H from making me sell mine, my kids, and my mom's home...

9:30 here and I'm thinking the day's drama is far from over as I still haven't received the usual spewing determined email from H... I usually get one after he gets mad when things aren't going his way...