Hi Allen and everyone, I thought this was a really good thread. I didn't start a new one as you suggested above Allen cos I've only just came across your post - but would be very grateful if you stopped by my thread here in Infidelity.
But, back to the Ghandi Approach and the purpose of this thread...
It seems to me that ALL the great advice given by yourself and Puppy is about fighting infidelity in the home.
But how do you 'fight' infidelity when your spouse has fessed up and told you the truth before you even guessed an A was happening, moved out of the family home immediately, is telling you and everyone else that you are separated (which, in their opinion, gives them full license to do what they want and explore/build the other relationship), and that D is the next inevitable step. What marriage-saving techniques - Bo Peep or Ghandi- can work in this sitch?
I imagine cutting off/dividing up family finances are about ALL you can do ? That is - stop funding the affair?. Which'd be More Ghandi than Bo Peep...
AND throw in this complication: in some sitch's you can't go DARK or anything because their are babies (unborn in my case) or children involved so some contact is required.
So... Bo-Peep or Ghandi, as applied to the above?
I will say more, but heavy exposure to everyone. Tell everyone you want to save your marriage but that your partner is cheating on you, and was when you were in the same home.
Basically shame the affair out of your partner's life.
If you have to go to the OP's workplace and humiliate them there too, you do it.
