Yes, he is licking his wounds hey and 'afraid' to pursue you today.
Yeah but he is not forthcoming either. I asked bf to read PM.. he said, yes! sure! He never did. I asked bf to tell me when he had contact with Helen, he said he would. I found out this week he has SEEN her at work several times but omitted to mention it. He said he had told me. I said, no way, I didnt know. He said it was no big deal so he didnt think it was important. He said he doesnt remember me asking him to tell me about contact! WTF !?? I found out yesterday they shared a weekend with BMF and W, he told me before they never weekended with friends...He also lied to me Maria, blatantly about the contact with her BEFORE he left me. Even you and people here see it as a new R, but he was sneaking out of the house to phone her July/Aug 2007, 4 months before he left me. It was only his massive depression and her longterm bf that stopped them getting together sooner. I know that now and I've even let that go !!
I guess the difference between our sitches then is that when these things crop up and bf explains himself.. I accept he wants to just move on and I dont see it as another nail in his coffin. Maybe yes, because our R is basically sound and loving, you are right. Its not about the past, I see your problem is about your PRESENT R, or lack of!.. as I think Michelle/Kat pointed out? And a 3 year affair is ALOT to get past... xx PS: But I thought H did tell you also, she was nothing?? That he didnt love her, only the situation??
