Into my arms... #70

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Maria, how is your daughter now? Has H contacted you after your talk last night?? (nice that you bought him a gift btw! Shame you threw it at him, lol!!)

I see others voice something I was thinking.. there seems to be a sense of self sabotage/confusion here and as a Piscean, its very hard to explain, but I know I have been guilty of seeming and acting 'in' (even to myself!) when in reality, part of me and my soul was 'out'. Its a subtle subconcious thing -

You keep saying its him, he is not doing enough/isnt proving he loves you, showing he loves you.. but you just sound.. ambivalent all the time, in two minds?? You rarely express how happy and grateful you feel after all your efforts, that you GOT WHAT YOU WANTED - your H back!

..you dont seem to be able to let go of the past, the past hurt, the past humiliation, the past H.. you are framing that hurt and humiliaton as though it is the PRESENT and maybe thats what your H finds confusing?

Of course SIL may have spoken to Christina, he is her brother and families stick together right? He had left you and the R and had started an R with her, so its not that surprising she would have some contact with her. Yes its hurtful and disloyal to you, but it doesnt make her immoral. Its also not surprising he didnt tell you - he doesnt see the point in "adding insult to injury" and I dont blame him and probably would do the same in his shoes. You are back together, in his mind, so what if his sister spoke to her back then? Maybe she was curious? Nosey? Just wanted to maintain an R with her brother?

So H didnt tell you, but from what I see...he just wants to let it go Maria. Easier said than done hey?

So perhaps you should call it a day, OR, go back for MC/IC to sort your issues out safely. I also think, he is telling you why he cant ML, because he is wounded and embarressed and your R feels tarnished.. NOT becuase he rejects you or doesnt fancy you. Maybe (if you two are still together today!!) really work on bridging the gap between you.. loving hugs... affection, closeness, touches, compassion and kindness toward one another, rather than focus on actual sex?? Or.. maybe you are done..

Sounds like HE needs reassurance..he is telling you that and so did that letter he wrote you..that his self esteem is in tatters. Its probably why he grasps onto his job/career like a drowning man.

You said to him you wish you could both talk and be heard.. sounds like you are both so hurt and wounded and need something from the other person, that you are not able to hear what the other is actually saying!

Just trying to help here sunbeam, as Neaj and others say, from an outsiders perspective..! xxx