How do I act?

[steady]

meghunny, I had a similar thing happen to me with my W finding this site. I sent a message to the moderators here and asked them to make my existing threads invisible. You need to make them invisible because when you change your name, your name will change to the new name on the threads that already exist.

I had them make them invisible instead of deleting them because I knew down the road I would have them brought back so I had a record of my journey.

You just click the notify button on the bottom right corner of any post on your thread and send them your request. Make sure you put your current name in the message - I'm not sure if they can readily tell who notified.

I then requested to have my name changed which they did.

I then started posting again under a different name. Eventually the people who were following me found my thread.

There's no guarantee but it is what I did.