Oh wow! So is this why my parents took 3 years to finalize their D? Their savings (and our college funds) were depleted.
The was NY state in the 1980's.
I still remember the nasty lawyer who made us wait forever. He was eating lunch. As a child, my sister and I were playing the stairwell and there he was carrying back his lunch. Mind you we already had been waiting an hour.
So we sit with him and he asks very casually. "So who do you want to live with?" That shocked and devastated me. I had to chose b/t my mom or dad and it would go on court record. I did not want to hurt anyone. I mean it really put me in a horrible spot. You would think they would have a counselor ask me that, not some, could care less lawyer.
my father fought his lawyer bill. I think he went to the bar or something. He won his battle and had to pay a lowered amount. Still was in the thousands. Still was a small fortune.
Sorry you are going through this....
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
