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Ready,

I thought about that one for a while. Hence my question here. I'm not sure it's even a matter of pursuing anymore. I basically quit any methods of trying to 'control' anything with an outcome in mind.

Being nice at all can be construed as pursuing. I mean anything that is beyond dealing with the logistics of our house and the kids that is.

At this point I don't even think I want my W back because I know it wouldn't work. She hasn't changed, and all the issues that existed from her end still exist. I've gone through incredible changes and am nowhere near the person I was two years ago.

Your reply was very helpful because I've come to the conclusion that I will only have my kids give her a card for her birthday and I will not.

I'm not sure I really buy the whole, If I do A, then B should happen. It seems to really boil down to:

If someone wants to leave, let them leave. Don't hold on. Move forward. Improve yourself. Don't try to control anything. Say Yes to whatever happens. Keep the focus on yourself. Want what you want, but don't be attached to a particular outcome. Live life.

Thanks for your reply Ready. It did get me on a nice line of being.