I am going to go out on a limb here and put it in black and white... I agree with Robx...
I am sorry but "validating" only goes so far and quite frankly I am about sick of the way people here are encouraged to stick their head in the sand and "validate" our WAS feelings...
Save the marriage by making sure you kiss your spouses a$$ and making sure they are ok and their feelings are ok and do this and do that and don't do this, don't do that, say this...No you said it wrong say it this way instead because GOD forbid our spouses understand the absolute destruction their choices have caused anyone else....
GOD forbid we actually tell them what WE feel because that would make them run...
I sit here and watch the newbies come in and day by day the advice is so far off from what I was taught a year ago...
Unless it is the veterans posting advice...
Your spouse CHEATED on you...WTF do you want to sit back and act like it never happened to save your marriage? Why do you want to be turned into some spineless robot just to save something that apparently wasn't sacred enough to begin with?
This isn't just for Tristan - This is for all the people who want to believe there isn't a big fat elephant standing in your living room.
All of you are so much better then that...To think that some of you have been here for YEARS and not much has changed is so sad to me...To think you aren't worthy enough of a greater love from someone else because you are so stuck in your rut is even sadder...
There should be a set timeline for waiting around for your spouse to pull their head out of their a$$...
In my honest opinion.
(((Hugs)))
To you all and I say this out of respect and love.
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
