me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Well... kinda tough cuz being the only parent around the kids have to get to sports/dance etc. in the evenings.
But, I do have an IC appt. tomorrow night and was thinking of taking myself out for coffee/book store browsing after. Being home a bit later will be fine for the kids.
Otherwise work/kids takes up almost all my time.
So, when home with the kids doing things like a nice long relaxing bath, glass of wine, reading etc. Something interesting I noticed... over the past year I could no longer read for pleasure due to anxiety. I used to love that. I am now starting to be able to do that again. A little thing that makes me happy.
I'm so glad to hear that! I have had the same problem - an avid reader and news junkie - that's gone out the window due to anxiety too! I"m glad to hear our brains come back eventually lol
And enjoy that time rocked. A break is a break. Later in the year plan a girls weekend away. You will need a break as well. It cannot always be intensity. Some times it needs to be just plain good old fashioned fun.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
My IC called this morning and had to cancel our appointment as she is sick. I was really looking forward to more EMDR. Can't back in to see her for a few weeks. But thank God I have all you folks!
Continuing to stay in touch with H, but not too much. Once or twice a day, which is good. He seems to be doing ok. Talked about experiencing a few triggers being in that city, but said "It's my own f***ing fault." I said, "Yes it is." But it seemed good he could get past that.
I had a few moments of anxiety while driving to work this morning... no particular reason why. I think the time driving alone during my commute gives me too much time to think sometimes, and I'll start to remember a painful moment. Usually I can talk myself through it, put some good music on. Other than that, I had a good day ... and the anxiety didn't last. S18 came home for a visit tonight, so had all the kids plus one of D13's friends over. I love it when the kitchen table is full and there is lots of conversation and laughs. Always good for the PMA.
Sometimes so hard to just shut off that brain isn't it. Despite the small anxiety, step back and look at how GREAT you are doing this week. Better than you would have predicted...keep it up! It is already Wednesday...
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
Another one here who struggles with keeping anxiety under control, my mind just doesnt turn off, I just have to force/insist it thinks about something else! Really turns the imagery of lying on a beach in the sunshine to go to sleep into a fine art!
Hugs hope the week goes quickly soon easter weekend, well it is here in the uk!
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I was really looking forward to more EMDR. Can't back in to see her for a few weeks. But thank God I have all you folks!