I asked friends to help me with getting some stuff done. To hold me accountable. Did that during the worst of my drinking phase--no drinks until I wrote the agenda for the board meeting!
I definately needed some discipline from the outside.
Re: life is a mess and bringing people up to speed on it: then don't! Really! get together with a friend (really, please do! please don't stay alone with tasks piling up and overwhelming you) and just say: hey, I don't need or want to talk about my life right now--let's just talk about sports-weather-nail polish--whatever it is you talk about when your life is NOT a mess.
I have done this several times. One, not to overwhelm my friends with my constant terrible state. Two, just to give MYSELF a break from talking/thinking about my constant terrible state.
Just say: thanks for asking, things are going along, how are YOU?
I can't be too much of a pot/kettle, as I don't have any goals right now either (well, I do have that half marathon) But in the 'eating an elephant' parable--one bite at a time.
Pack books one day. Then call a friend. Pack old files the next day. Then call your Dad.
Can you call some friends over for a packing party? You drink, and dictate what goes where, what gets thrown out, and they put it in boxes. All the memory/picture stuff can go in a box that says: open later. Much later.
If it had turned out that I had to move, that is what I was planning on doing.
My chin is not up, but I will pretend it is, for your sake. I have a bit more time now to catch up on threads.
Know that I am always thinking of our parallel universes, even when I don't get a chance to write.
