I really can feel your pain. I was trapped in this joke of a system for 24 months and things still aren't done.
I have never witnessed more BS in my life.
My H's attny was a real snake and each time we got close to *something* he (he = snake attny, let's call him Robert) would request a judge change. After THREE requests and three consents on our part the judge finally got really ticked off and said no more. This all took place in March of 2008 and our next hearing was set in NOVEMBER of 2008.
I won't even go into details of what happened between March of 2008 and November but it was not good. Things were supposed to be finalized, ROBERT <--- snake, pulled my H out at the last minute (and when I say last minute I mean 7 min. before the final agreement was to be signed) and told the judge there were "problems" and the clock started again.
Mind you, we have NO children so custody was not even an issue in our case although an affair on my H's part was.
You can write to every person that has power in this state and it won't do a darn bit of good. I am 35 and it has been in legislation since before I was born to adjust the divorce laws in this state. The problem? No politician wants to be the one to make divorce "easier".
I will NEVER get married in this state again. Ever. Period.
The legal stress I was under contributed to an actual nervous breakdown, I was hospitalized, my lupus became very active and I was diagnosed with a situatonal panic disorder. My H took our car w/o any legal agreement in place leaving me sick and stranded with ALL the bills and while all this legal BS played out, he pranced around with OW.
In the family court division we were in we went through four judges, 16 adjournments, countless motions and 18 file folders of BS.
Stay strong. It is hard. It is awful. It is the system, NOT YOU!
