A Little Update: Regarding that party. I DID go to the party. My wife didn't exactly invite me, she just spoke about it using "we" instead of "I." I went and we all had a great time. I loved playing with my kids and seeing them have so much fun. As I've said, she seems to be warming up a bit. She doesn't run away after dinner, she gets closer to me, she talks more openly, she jokes a little bit and she listens to me when I speak with interest. We still aren't talking about the BIG problems, but or surface convos have been getting better. On Sunday I took our kids to my sister's home. The W didn't come. I think it was tough for her to be separated from her kids all day and I know she didn't stay in the house -- she ran to her sister's house. For me it was the first time I did this since our blow up. It was VERY hard to cope with. My sisters were grilling me and expressing their anger and I was trying to deal with it. But being out with my kids (and they had a good time) without my partner was incredibly sad and quite frankly it sucked. It's about an 1.5 hr. drive and I cried a good deal of the way home while my two were in the back watching their DVDs. I missed not having my wife there with me and our kids. But then this morning something strange happened. Just as I was about to leave for work, my wife walks up to me and says, "Would you mind if I called your therapist?" I played it cool and said, "No. Sure!" I gave her my therapist's card and later found out from my therapist that she made an appt. to see her tomorrow before my scheduled appt. The fact that she brought herself to go see my therapist (who is a marriage counselor) seriously boosts my hopes. I think being along without her family around on Sunday rattled her cage a bit, and I know with this house she bought and still hasn't told me about has got to be eating away at her. What would she do? Tell the father of her children that she is moving without me and I go out with the morning trash? I can't see that. I think many things are closing in on her and she has taken the first step. I hope it's all for the right reasons....
