How to approach W about OM

[OfficerInNeed]

I know better by now to get sucked or drawn into an argument and I bit my tongue the whole time. I agreed to do the phone log thing because my W has this paranoia that I am conversing with someone behind her back or keeping something from her. I wanted to show her I have nothing to hide and maybe set an example for her so she would be more forthcoming (this was suggested in this thread a few weeks back).

I have decided I would NOT go cold and continue my detached loving because it is more inviting and less stressful. Why should I mope around and walk around ticked off and put myself in a terrible mood (that is me of old). I will stay positive and carry on working toward my goal.

As for her sanity, I agree. I am scheduled to speak with a therapist tomorrow and I will see how it goes, if it is good I will see if she is interested.

The issue I have....I read in many threads and in DR book to not talk about your changes just make the changes and that your WAS will notice. When my wife questions me about a phone call or where I am going and I tell her (counseling, therapist) she immediately shrugs her shoulders and blows it off as if she never asked the question.