But she's "lost" in this MLC, I'm sure it's partly hormonal and that really changes the way one's brain thinks. She thinks she's awakening to a whole new revitalized world, and everything else should just be tossed aside for it. It's so strange.
And no matter what I say to her (and remember, I'm NOT emotionally involved), she seems to have an explanation and rationalization that she believes for everything (and they sound remarkably like what my MLC-H is saying, though they couldn't be more different folks, so weird!). It makes sense in her head, but alot of it is unrealistic, unthinking, is not sustainable in the long-run, or has hurtful repercussions that normally people who care about each other would not do.
And there's this strange boredom and depression intertwined with it. And anger, and calousness.
But the most amazing thing is, that after this long marriage she had, and a very nice husband (well, he's not perfect, but who is?), and great kids... she mentally is really not in the marriage. He can't beg to make her come back, he can't make her jealous, when he follows her suggestions she thinks he's foolish, and when he helps her it just furthers HER plan to move on. At least for this early stage (they only recently separated). It's so weird. The only things that seem to get her attention are things that indicate that he is not there as backup for her if things don't go the way she is hoping (which they don't!). The DB things really make sense.
