Fergie - You are INSANE if you read all of it!!! But, if you're a glutton for punishment, your input would be greatly apprecitated! If you go to the beginning of my last thread, there's a recap...
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
mindfull - I'd rather read it from the start. And I'm more skimming than actually reading each and every post.
OMG. The penis straw, and your D finding it, has me in stitches. You must have a really good relationship with your D for her to actually question you on it.
Ha! D18 and I are almost exact duplicates... in fact, a neighbor just stopped me yesterday, and told me he saw my twin the other day at a restaurant... I said, "Oh, really? Who aged better?" He says... "No, I saw D18. You two could seriously be twins!" She acts almost just like me, too. As you will read, she is the apple of my H's eye, and he's the Step-Dad! She was/is TROUBLE, but so much fun! She lives on her own, and goes to school now, and, God Willing, keeps her grades up to go away to her school of choice in the fall... Good relationship? Well, we'll just leave it at... Mom was always the heavy! Actually, she was just here. Arrives as I was showering, says sweetly, "Hi MOM!" The next thing you know... ice cold water on my head! She was sorry!
Sorry, I'm verbose. Just me!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
MF, Since things are still in stasis w/ my M. My thread has seemed to just be stuck on jovial things for now. I'll be heading home soon to start packing my W's things. I still haven't gotten any Happy B-Day wishes from my W yet today.
I picked up later in your thread that your D/18 is very close to your H, after I sent that last post. I'm still plugging along with the thread, when I have a few minutes to spare.
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ice cold water on my head!
I do that! She must be very special!
I must have missed the possible A suspicions you had about your H. The only post I read was he got up from bed late on a Saturday night w/ his cell phone and came back without it (essentially hiding it). He doesn't really use a computer. But is on the road a lot. Did I miss anything?
I can't top the 18 year old twin story, but I can add to it. So, I had just about the best 40th B-Day present ever. My lab co-workers took me out for my birthday and we went to a birthday bar. And my very outgoing buddy told the hostess she had to guess my age (he's 47 and relishing my joining him in the 40+ club). After looking at me for a few seconds she said, "27". <shock> It happened to be her birthday too, so I had to guess her age. I said, "22". She said, "I'm 25." <whew> I said, "You don't really think I'm 27?" She said, "I was going to go as high as 30, but that was it." Who says only women care about their age? Me <--- smug
MF, I got that you went to NW, and your son is a Fighting Illini fan, so I just have to poke you:
I think I just threw up in my mouth! WISCONSIN! ACK!!!
Are you the blonde, tall one in front of the yellow truck, that needs to trim his mustache? LOL If so, my God, pull foot out of mouth, but trim the 'stache!
Actually, S13 had a dream to go to Wisconsin to play under a specific soccer coach. Sooooooo, one of my best soccer mom friends and I worked our feminine charm (just "happened" to meet hi in person at an event) to get he and his best friend invited to their camp (even though they're a year young...). Well, guess what... He just got recruited to Indiana! Oy! So, we're now tracking him down to get invited there! This is like work.
I think the friend only said twin in the sense that she resembles and acts just like me. Not, as in AGE. I mean... 29 maybe, 18 NO! LOL LOL My H totally ribs D18 all the time, telling people to go up to her and tell her how much she looks like me, how we are so much alike. She gets so pissed! It is hysterical. Not sure why she's so pissed. I'm darn cool. Just ask me!
Smug is good.
How IS the birthday boy doing today? What are your plans tonight?
I have a present for you. I'll send it later. You will smile.
Now get busy, be productive, and move on, friend!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
gucci has a ton of posts with a wealth of info, I'm going to start dropping quotes on your thread, there is so much wisdom in there, make sure you soak it all up:
Originally Posted By: gucci loafer
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Ok, I didn't tell her I was dating, just talking to someone. I am so so so tempted to just blast her but I keep reading what you've wrote about not being punitive. Some else on here said living a great life was the best payback also. I want to be rational but I also want to blast her so freaking hard right now because of the way she is acting.
I don't recommend being punitive. Not necessary. I realize that you want to blast her, but that isn't rational or a good idea.
"I am kinda seeing someone. Yes I am over you and hope this gives you the closure you need. I just suddenly realized that things just were never going to work between us. I don't want to be with a woman that I don't trust or can't be true to me. I don't want to be with a woman who can't decide if she loves me or not. I am sorry that it didn't work out between us and hope that someday we can be friends."
I would think that should give you a way of "tellng her off" without it coming across as angry. I would suggest this approach because it leaves you with all the options and still gets your points across about how you feel about her behavior.
Amazing huh? Jealousy can do what no other thing can. Good job.
MF -- I knew you couldn't handle the Wisconsin awesomeness.
Guy with the 'stache?!? Does he look 40 (I mean 27) to you? I know the video is far away, but come on... That guy is my friend Tom. I'm the guy you can barely see playing next to him, staring at the ground.
I had a goatee for a while, but I'm no longer rocking the goat. Maybe if you are nice, I'll send you a better pic.
Using your feminine charms? Is that anything like DBing?
I was doing really well today. I had a really nice lunch and the "very youthful" comment from the hostess made me feel super. I don't have any other plans except packing and moving stuff to the garage. I have the bedrooms and closets done. I'm in the home stretch. I can slow down now (if I want) and still get 98% of the stuff moved tonight. So, I'm going to basically be ready for the notification tonight.
Just an aside, I know I shouldn't be focusing on this, but I haven't received anything from my W regarding my b-day. No email. No text. No phone call. No card. I'm pissed and really disappointed. After nearly 10 years of M and she just cuts off all contact completely. It really hurts. It is still early-ish, and she may call yet today, but I doubt it. Not even a freakin' card. <shaking head> It is giving me angry packing fuel. And stuff I'm not sure who should get, I'm keeping. She can ask for it, if she wants it.
Now I need Rob to send me some advice. I still think the odds are 95% she continues the D dance. I just did her a HUGE favor.
Looks like I posted too soon. As soon as I sent it, the W called wishing me a happy birthday. Conversations with her are tough as far as DBing goes. She only wants to talk about me. If I try and herd the conversation towards her, she either doesn't have much to say or tries to steer it back again.
Trust me, nothing is better than a bad alternative. On my bd during the A BF decided he should take me out to dinner and like an idiot I agreed. It was awkward and ruined the day for me. On top of that, I later found out he stayed out in the garage to talk to OW. Nice.
So celebrate your day! Skip the packing tonight and go out and do something fun. This is the start of the best year of your life. Go out with a friend to dinner. If no one is available, go to a bar where you've always wanted to be a regular and make friends with the bartender. Or go to a place that has good looking women and see if you can get one (or more!) of them to buy you a birthday drink.
I will have a glass of wine for you because I'm giving like that.
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