Every 4 months my W schedule changes where she has to bid on a new shift. This time around she bid to have mon-tues off. These are same days off as OM.
My W and I were sitting there and OMW called. I put her on speaker OMW said OM is beside her. OM got a call that my W took same days off as him. OM told his wife and now she us fuming. OMW proceeds to call my W crazy, a stalker and made some threats. OM got on the line and said it has to stop it is getting way out of control and he will quit his job if he had to.
After the call my W became angry and started to say things like "I can't take off the days I want?" "Its like their trying to control my life" then looks at me and says "you controlled my life for 10 years and now they want to do the same"
She then wanted to chck my phone logs. So we sat there for nearly an hour going through the logs comparing numbers. She started to say there were numbers there b4 that r not now. She continues on about OMW and starts to attack me. I become victim for something I did not do.
I told her "I would not lie to her, this has got out of hand, she called me and it was unexpected" I did say and should not had "I understand why you r upset and this is not my doing. I can't unbderstand why I am to blame"
When I told her some of the long calls were to counselors ect she said it does not matter....I thought if it did not matter then y r we going through this.
I told her I had some errand to run and needed some time to think then I left....
It would seems she does not care nor wants to hear about all the help I received to become a better person.
What's my next move? Should I lay low and stay quit or do I carry on like I was with a smile like this never happened. I admit I am upset. I have been submissive and walked on eggshells for a long time now and I am at fault even when I am not at fault.
M: 27, W: 25 Together since: 01/31/00 M: 10/4/09 (8 Months) ILBNILWY: 01/24/10 EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted). Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10 Retrouvaille: 09/10/10
