You're wonderful, God bless you for the time and insight and heart you put into these things. I never even thought of a trained facilitator helping out. And I see your point on the second avenue of approach if my one on one doesn't work.
Qs: 1. Do I still expose to OW and OWH 2. Do I tell the friends anything? i.e. just saying something like DH is having an affair, it's not his first, we're working on the M and would appreciate any support? 3. Do I take a hard line about them using OUR apartment to have their trysts? I'm kind of detached from that. If it's not there, it will be somewhere else, right? But as long as he's using it as his love pad, it's not being rented and we need that income.
