Invinceable

[mishka422]

I do feel pretty darned good with all the steps I'm taking for my health. I'll tell you, I don't want to end up like my mother and it's a slippery slope in my family. There is such a horrible history of cancer, heart disease, diabetes, obesity....it goes on and on. I actually once had a doctor look at my family history and comment, "Gee....and you're still living...hmmm." YUCK!

I don't especially like that Gabe is there, but it is what it is. I've just received a text from him tell me that he just saved my mom from falling. I can say honestly that I'm thankful he was there when I wasn't. Why does that woman insist on being so stubborn? She has a bedside commode but I'l guarantee you that she refused to use it and went into the bathroom where she can't fit her walker. I don't have the details on how or where she was falling. UGH!

I don't know what happened. I don't really care. Heck, I even warned the woman that he is pathological and she, of course, insisted that he wasn't like that with her. LOL! Um....this has been his pattern since early childhood. Not something that is only done on a case by case basis. Good heavens. She definitely is getting hers though.

Jeff, don't think I haven't thought about going away to my cousin's house at the beach for a few days. There just doesn't seem to be any way to do it and be sure mom is taken care of. She isn't Gabe's responsibility and I won't ask him to do that. Mom wouldn't allow it anyway. We're talking personal hygine that I have to take of for her most of the time....TMI.....that's not something he can do.

[MichelleLT]

He can mow the lawn, fix stuff around the house, finish steam cleaning the carpets, do good things to your car, help Marc with homework, help you mom when you're not there.....

Sounds great!

You looked into having some in-home assistance didn't you? Between that and Gabe could you swing a lil vacation?

If not, still put him to work! LOL

And keep up the great work with your diet and exercise!

[Andabelle]

I think you should start calling him "boy."

The situation may be awkward, but at least you're getting a little help-- that's something, anyhoo.

Yep, karma's a b!tch. And so is OW.

[kat727]

Oh get him a pair of whilte gloves so that he doesn't get his fingerprints all over the glass wear! then you can have him wipe over where he was supposed to have dusted...oh the wicked me is coming out. lol

Help is always appreciated but it doesn't have to mean more than that.

kat

[BobbiJo]

Whatever the circumstances for him being there, I am glad he is there if only to help ease your mind about leaving your mom to go to work...

You sound much stronger than last time he moved back in, physically and emotionally! Keep on truckin sister!

[oldtimer]

Mish,

STOP it. Stop saying "no, it won't work." "no one will help." "there's no way..."

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You have family, you have home health assistance, you have another functioning adult living in your house, presumably rent free. OF COURSE you can manage to get away for a couple of days. DO IT. Stop with the nay saying. Stop with the excuses. Make it work. Put Gabe in charge of figuring out coverage. It might do him good to feel like an adult.

[dday101798]

Daaaaaaaaayum!

I gotta hang out in my old neighborhood more often. Agreed with every one else thus far, use this opportunity to YOUR advantage, enjoy some of that karma for yourself.

[mishka422]

Put Gabe in charge of figuring out coverage.

Doing that would require me to trust him and I don't. Simple.

Having him here really doesn't mean that he's going to be a lot of help with my mom (other than lifting her if I can't) but it did mean that he got Marc to come do the yard work with him and he took Marc to karate on what is my night. That was nice.

Discovery tonight.....don't ever read Cosmo....EVER! That will just frustrate you to no end. Ick! I picked up a copy someone left on a bench today and it was fairly traumatic to read just how NOT with it I am and how bass ackward my thoughts about relationships apparently are.

[oldtimer]

Really. I'm not asking him to trust you with a romantic R. You can arrange the schedule or you can review his arrangements. He is able to parent. You allow him to parent your son. I think he is competent to help out a grown woman for two days.

Really, enough with the excuses.

[mishka422]

That is where we will have to disagree OT. I trust him to parent Marc. That is his responsibility as much as it is mine. My mother is another subject. Not his responsibility and I won't trust him to make her his priority for a couple of days while I jot off to the beach with Marc. That is a line I won't cross with him. I wouldn't ask a roommate to watch my mother for me so why would I ask him?