If the marriage is really meant to be, the WAS will return. If not, then we have dealt with our issues and don't carry them forward. In either option.....what is happening with the WAS's affair should have no impact on our development. So in that light....it doesn't matter what is going on. If the affair ends....what matters is how the MLC'er moves through their tunnel.
I am kind of confused. I am not begging my H to come home..actually not even asking him to come home..would actually prefer he didnt come home right now. How do I know when he is ready to come home? How do I know he has moved through the tunnel? How do I know if it was actually a MLC that he was going through? Do I just continue to watch and see if he makes some consistent changes? I don't know how to act right now or what to do....He is all over the place...making me feel like I am all over the place. I really need some consistent behavior. Without this..I don't want him home (boundary)... I know that part of detaching is not allowing his moods impact my life...god..this stuff is so tough
