Spouse Suffering From Depression

[Lucky11too]

I just don't get it either. Having a child changes your life (or should change your life)! I knew my H liked to go out, but I honestly believed (and he told me) that he was a family guy and would give up that partying lifestyle. Instead it went the opposite direction and he became even more of a party guy! Can you say quarter life crisis?

This is such an exciting time with S right now. He is just really beginning to open up, saying new words, express his feelings (including love), etc. I just look at him and feel so happy. I think about H and how he is missing all this, but that's his choice.

Interactions with H have been lilmited. Since he was been focused on moving, I haven't seen him since last Wednesday (and that was only briefly). I asked him how the moving went on Sunday and texted back and forth then. Then yesterday, he texted about about how sore his back was from moving and about his first bartending shift (normally he is the manager, but he wanted to try out the bartending shift b/c they actually make tips), so then we texted back and forth a bit then. I joked with him that he better not get too comfortable in his new place and he joked back "haha, no promises". I know we were in a joking tone b/c it's still not very comforting.

It's hard not to let things go thru your mind though. I offered to help H but he never took me up on it (which is probably good anyways b/c I could stay with S), but then I'm already wondering if any of his girl friends have been over there yet or if he's ever going to let me come over. It might just be the little things that build up and make me blow. If he tries to play that game with me that I can't come over to his "bat cave" or won't tell me where he lives again, then I have to question his motives with me and have to let him know that is not ok. We're either working on us or not. No more of these stupid games.

So, we could possibly be spending a lot of time together this weekend. He already told me he took my birthday off on Saturday (which probably means he won't come over on Friday then) and then he got Easter off on Sunday too. For Easter, S and I will be spending the morning with my family and attending church, then heading over to the inlaws big gathering for the easter egg hunt, etc. So it could be a fun weekend.