How do I act?

[MrBond]

Don't do anything. He can read all he likes. He's trying to control the chaos HE caused.

He hasn't admitted to being wrong, remorseful, etc. He feels he's doing the right thing, etc. But that's his deal. Can't change that. But by controlling your actions and threatening, yes he was threatening you with how "ugly" it will get. Is like a little boy throwing a tantrum when he can't get his way with things.

He can't control you any more than you can control him. The difference is that you are doing the right thing and he's not. There's a reason why the military objects to this type of behavior...IT'S WRONG.