For months and months I got tied up with talks with my H that would go on for hours. It was abusive and I never should have participated. It was simply a way for him to purge his guilt yet keep on truckin' down the affair and divorce path. Don't put yourself in the same position I did unless you are certain it is only you and your H in the talks.
This is what I am most concerned about. I realize that the OW leaving his office is not the answer to anything..nor does it guarantee that the A is over. He seems to think this is the greatest thing ever..he says he is relieved.
Regarding the abuse...I had my fair share of it as well...that is why I needed to kick him out. It wasn't healthy. Now I am at a strange place..I am afraid to not keep my wall up a mile high (complete darkness)...and I am afraid to not open up a little bit to him if his efforts to reconcile are genuine. I have been burned one too many times...I question every word he says...and analyze how he says things. I know the answer is detaching...some trigger goes off and I am reattached like a flee to a dog.
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Your H is not unique. No cheaters are.
Their behaviors and words during an A are so predictable. I have heard every line..some multiple times.
