You have two choices. You can try to control her, which does not work. A better choice is to set her free, work on you while she is gone, and if/when she comes back repair the relationship.

So what I highly recommend is "ACT AS IF":

Act as if she is not coming back.
Act as if you are happy. (No matter what W is doing) You are a strong man that owns his own happiness.

"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712