Hi Lea, I am sure this is a difficult time. As bad as things have been, our imagination makes things worse than they are. Maybe the two of you can compromise? He's just angry, hopefully that will start to subside. I feell your anguish, not wanting the D, feeling unable to stop it, now having to stress about the finances. Trust your L, you stated that she is good. Allow her to do her job. I understand how you feel, be strong and trust HIM.