I can tell you this, IF your husband had come here instead we would have told him that he aboslutely needs to change his behaviour on the chance that you would give him a shot.
Does he need to change? Yes.
He is the LBS and if the LBS doesn't see the need to change, has no desire to...then THEY will repeat all the mistakes they have made in any new relationship they are in...and they will be in several at least.
Kuddos to you for doing this.
This is very brave of you.
I ask two things of you.
1st: IGNORE anyone who is unkind to you, some people MAY project their spouse onto you and bash you for their misplaced fears. IGNORE them.
2nd: Really analyse the advice for your goals. Kimmie has some good advice to being empowered, just not much of it is geared toward being married.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
