I was very romantic and I stepped it up and up and up until blood was draining out of my nose ears. I changed so much that I feel I would actually be a "catch" for someone now.
I have come to her for conversation, we've been to conferences, read a stack of books, have done different programs all to find out that she was just doing them. How would you feel finding that out?
I can see your point of view in this. My wife has NEVER offered to do non intercourse rememdies... none, never.
To help, on a different forum it was suggested, we made a contract that she would "help" me anytime anywhere using hands/mouth or body. Again, I want to emphasize that I'm not going to test her while we are out to eat. I've been rejected even with this contract 1/2 dozen times including this morning after snuggling and me getting her coffee. We argued once again b/c I open myself up to her. How? My confidence is at 0% and having the contract was suppose to help me know she will not reject me and put the responsibility on ME to come to her to ask for it. So I do and still get rejected. I was in so much pain this morning driving to the office I almost cried. Gawd that was painful. She actually said that if I said it this way and did this or that. WTF?
You see I have lost all desire to wew her and at the risk of sounding mean, if she wants to go on a date she will have to ask me. I just don't care and I hate that I don't care, it just seems to be there.
I agree. I need to grow up and get over it, but that is sooooo hard. Why couldn't she get over what ever needed to be done to have intimacy with me all those years ago, and now still reject me?
