M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
June...I am not on the alt. I think that is hope4luv. i think she has mentioned being on the alt before :-) I think I might join soon but didn't want to get on another site that might take up my time...LOL. Lord knows that I spend too much time on this forum as is :-)
Me: 28 H: 32 1st marriage 4 both 1 1/2 year married 2gether for 9 1S: 6months 1stepson: 2yo
I'm curious, what is "alt"? I'm with you 4luv, I spend way to much time on here too. However, it is a great support to know I'm not alone with my sitch.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
i don't know if i can type out the name but it is a VERY popular networking site that everyone uses now. it has the name 'book' in it :-) I think it is a secret...LOL. Most of the vets are on the alt but most people still use a DB name such as DeeBee 4luv as an example
Me: 28 H: 32 1st marriage 4 both 1 1/2 year married 2gether for 9 1S: 6months 1stepson: 2yo
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
I have a better idea guys, to add to June's suggestion
mb28 I bet a big part of how manipulative he gets is becasue you talk to him ALONE - one on one.
DON'T DO THAT
invite a friend over, or even his own sister. Have them stay the night tehre with you. He wont' bully you if there's someone sle there.. I bet my a$$ he wont' try that.
He's manipulating you mb28. If you are not alone, he wont' try that.
Invite some girlfriends over on your first night there that you expect him to be there and he wont' confront you .. he will just LEAVE and sulk at his mommy's place.
Don't face him alone mb28. I honstly think when you talk to him on the phone or alone in person its just bad news for you.
When you move in, mvoe some friends in there temporarilly with you.
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
Don't face him alone mb28. I honstly think when you talk to him on the phone or alone in person its just bad news for you.
I totally agree with Allen mb. Whatever you can do to reduce the intensity...please do it. You don't need ANY drama right now. And really consider having these conversations by email if you can.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
