She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

[steady]

I know once I get home I will be able to quickly read the reality of the sitch, and move from there.

I think I am clear on what your intention about this. Just remember, the 'reality' of your sitch will sometimes change second by second, minute by minute, day by day. The sitch doesn't really change, your W will - like a roller coaster.

If you stay steady, the sitch will not change for you - work on yourself, have no expectations, stay in the moment, take care of yourself and the girls, stay out of your W's head, don't project, accept any outcome/consequence/change, etc...

I just signed up for a 5 day Sierra Nevada backpacking and rock climbing trip for when I get back. It's an all expense paid trip sponsored by Outward Bound for Iraq and Afghanistan Veterans. i feel I deserve this, and have definitely earned it.

Now this is awesome. When you go, leave all the rest of the 'stuff' at home as best you can.