Hi- I'm still here- just been hibernating a little in the burrow- it's been cold, grey, drizzly and yucky the last few days here.
I've been drafting up a proposed sep agreement, I have one last section to do re: retirement accounts, then I'll send it off to stbxh. StbxH still won't give me a proposed spousal support number, no surprise there, I guess- and I've been hesitant to go first because I'm pretty sure anything I propose will piss him off. That's his modus operandi- react and attack instead of leading. That way he doesn't have to take responsibility for anything, he can just be mad about it.
While I haven't proposed an actual number yet in conversation with him, I did ask him if his atty told him about "income equalization". H: "yes" in a very subdued voice... followed by a long pause. Me, with a somewhat chipper tone: "So I guess I'll start there" H: "OK, just send me something."
There's a huge gap between what I make and what he makes. He's not going to like this at all... I feel guilty even asking for it.
And the image I have of his fantasy world is that I just disappear from his life and he's got minimal financial consequences. Life is just supposed to go on as normal, but without me... He's going to lash out when he wakes up to reality, and I don't want to be in the line of fire when he does. I've had enough of that. I'm thinking I'll give him the proposal after Easter since I have to see him for a couple hour that day.
So that's my rambling for the day, I'll take a look and see what everyone else is up to.
PS- a bright spot- flying off to see my brother in Houston next month right after my birthday. It'll be nice to get out of town for a few days!
