Ok... I've recovered from the insane amount of drinking I did on my birthday.
I read DR yesterday.
I wish I woulda read it 2 months ago...
Anyways.
I think I've decided to use the LRT now.
My wife still contacts me, sort of. I got a text on my birthday night that she was "having a toast to me" or something. I didn't reply till the next day.
She seems open to the idea of hanging out with me again, but I really think she needs to be the one to initiate that happening.
I don't really have any questions, or any new news, I guess I just needed to post something...
Yesterday was hard. I missed her A LOT. I even typed up a whole big email to her, but didn't send it.
I wish there was something I could do right now, and with her being friendly with me I feel like I SHOULD be doing something, but I dont really know what that would be, so I spose if I'm not sure what to do I should do nothing.
I've had to basically completely rethink what I'm doing here...
I've gone back to thinking "ok, so what worked, and what didnt".
The fact that she was willing to see me, date me, take it slow, see what happens... THAT is a positive thing. The fact that she told me flat out really liked spending time with me... THAT is a positive thing.
Alright, so what was I doing to get that to happen?
That's what I'm struggling with.
I kept in contact with her.
She hardly, if ever, contacted me.
Ok, so is that a bad thing, really? I dont know.
and... I ASKED her if she would like to see me. And she did.
So, now, I'm wondering if I should just throw caution to the wind and ask AGAIN?
I think the LRT is doing something though...
We had to chat yesterday about a credit card, and after that was done she just started talking to me... Said some weird things.
Almost like she was trying to pry into the whole "dating" thing. Making comments about how the girls must love me, and how shes sure I have a lot of girls asking me out and stuff. I ignored it.
Shes still emailing me occasionally. Every few days. But only with articles or movies she thinks I would like.
I have no idea what to do now as far as trying to start something back up, because I still feel that if her and I are seeing each other we need to completely stop dating other people, but I'm pretty positive if I even bring that up again she's gonna give me the proverbial finger.
Maybe what I need to do is start smaller than even dating her. Maybe her and I totally need to just go out as friends. Maybe take a walk, just hang out and talk with no pressure of what were actually doing?
Konfuseeed, that is awesome. My W and I went out to dinner the other night and had a great time. I'm taking baby steps asking her to do things with me. Because before I would rarely take her out because I never thought we had the money to do things.
I say try it, try smaller. Go on a walk, or just sit out on the porch and watch the world go by.
don't put a lot of thought into it. And don't try to read her mind. I say if you are dating other people, maybe you should stop and not really say anything unless she asks. I don't know your whole sitch because I haven't read it, but I think that if you want your marriage to work, cut all other people out and focus on her, a little at a time.
Aces
I like all this empty space because i can now type out things that are important.
Like: D7 S2 starting swimming lessons on 3/30
"Readily will I display the intestinal fortidue required to fight on..."
And yeah, about the dating other people thing... We are both doing it... Me, just for some confidence, she claims she is doing it for the same reason
Okay, so because she is doing it you are doing it? I would find it hard to reconcile with someone when I have someone in the wings waiting "just in case" Just because she is doing it doesn't mean you should be. In fact I think it would show that you are a stand up guy because you want to be exclusive with her. You already seem like you have confidence so why go out and confirm it with other women, even if it is just for drinks or dinner?
Prove you are the only one by showing it. Actions speak louder than words konfuseeed. It is a tough sitch, but who's isn't? Put in the work to show her you want to be married. The next time she asks if you are dating you can say, with confidence, NO I'm not. And leave it at that. If she asks why, you can come up with something like because I have no want to date other people. Or something along those lines.
I think you are right if you just stay away for a while. But stay away from dating also. Just work on yourself. Find a hobby that you can do. I don't know. Sorry if I'm harsh but M is M and if you really want it you will stop dating and work on yourself, to show your W that you are the one she should be with.
Aces.....
I like all this empty space because i can now type out things that are important.
Like: D7 S2 starting swimming lessons on 3/30
"Readily will I display the intestinal fortidue required to fight on..."
