WAH in MLC with PA

[DiamondGirl]

No, paranoia is not a friend in my sitch and I'm aware of that. But I can't control his thoughts and I usually just try to keep my actions as visible and aboveboard as possible to avoid too much of it.

I did tell him I have not sold or given away anything, simply cleaning out the clutter stuff a few times now. Anything more I think would be considered pursuing maybe?

He is still trying to paint me as the manipulative bad guy who made him do all this.. So now he may be trying to say I'm selling everything out from under him I guess..

It's easy for me to see this in his comments... Claims I had an affair throughout the M as opposed to reacting to my past issues... Claims I tricked him into M him so I could be married to get out of my parents' house (I had already been saving for an apartment when we met). The claim before this was that I "stole" his income tax refund this year... Truth is, I claimed the kids because I am the primary caregiver and there is no paperwork to state who is the one to claim them. According to what I read, whomever is the primary caregiver as of Dec 31 gets to in the absence of an agreement. I included his income and the date of separation. I told him to file his and if there are any transfer of credit he's entitled to, mine will be adjusted. But there won't be because he made less than I did last year. So my refund would probably get increased rather than decrease.

Whenever whichever bad thing I supposedly did isn't supported by the facts, he thinks up a new one to not face what HE'S done to our M and R or to justify it.

I think it is also a control thing, as I have not reacted to any of this the way he expected me to.

I'm not sure how to reassure him that I'm not dating... (I'm not even considering it actually as I'm married until the D papers are signed and then who knows how I'll feel then..)

I married forever and I still love the man I married. I know he's lost his way and made some life-changing mistakes... but I've overcome a lot in my past and can overcome this too...