I don't think that paranoia is necessarily your friend in this sitch. I know with my H you are either Friend or Foe. I read somewhere that you want to be the lighthouse...the steady beacon that guides him back home. A bit of reality checking is good, but perhaps there's something you could do to counteract the paranoia part.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
