I don't know about where you are, but the market here stinks! We have had our home for over a decade and I think we can get more for it than we bought it for, but I am not even sure of that.
As for the W and me, it has been a tough couple of days. We were talking yesterday about maybe going out for lunch today.
W: "I know, I can take you to the SC!"
I knew this was a place that she went with OM often when they were together, so I had this negative reaction. It must have shown on my face.
W: "What?" M: <silence: I was trying to collect my thoughts> W: "What? Just tell me." M: <shaking head> "Don't you have memories? I can't help but think 'What conversations did the two of you have here'." W: <obviously upset> "Do we need to talk about this? It seems that we are talking about it every other day." M: "Don't you understand how those thoughts could come into my mind?" W: "I don't know. Do we have to talk about this." <conversation came to a halt>
<later that night> W: "Do you ever think of retaliating against me?" M: "I sometimes wish you could fell how I do. But so you could understand me; not to retaliate. What do you mean?" W: "You're not going to leave me are you? Leave me stranded all alone in Texas?" M: "Of course not. I am not going to leave you." M: <pause, then smile and laugh to myself> W: "What?" M: "Funny. You worried about me leaving you."
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Finally, we talked this morning and she really needs to send an e-mail to OM for work puposes. It is kind of crucial, 100K is riding on the line. So we discussed it.
M: "I am very conflicted here. On one hand, I want you to succeed and understand the need to do this; but on the other, I want you to stay as distanced from him as possible." W: "I understand." M: "What I would ask is that you forward his response to me."
<This request made her extremely upset, I could tell it in her face>
M: "Do you think I am being unreasonable?" W: <silence, shaking head> W: "No, its just that this is hard." M: "What is hard? ...You miss him?" W: "No. Not at all. It's this dynamic. It's us. It's just hard. It reminds me of just how bad I screwed up." ...
She quickly got ready and got out of the house this morning after that without saying much. I feel anxious now. Hopefully, it will get better as the day goes on.
