Did I blow it?

[koliver0821]

This is how you should think about it.

The Marriage as it was constituted is over. Accept that!

However, from the smoldering ashes and destruction of that marriage, a new one can begin to build. However, its vitally important for her to know that you will not share her. Unless thats what you want. To me thats not a marriage. If it was a loveless marriage, you will need to learn how to speak her love language. You will need to rebuild that trust and tear down those walls that are keeping her from loving you exclusively.

Its not a marriage if other people are involved. Everyone here is thought the same thing. You went on dates with other women. You told your wife the same thing. You are even backpedaling with the people on this forum. Were they dinner dates? Or was it perhaps more but nothing happened?

It sounds like some serious air clearing needs to be done. No more games. Time for adult conversations. She is either keeping you on the line as she is working on something on the side or shes trying to make it work. Like most people would say. Its not likely someone would walk away from a relationship (even a flawed one) unless they have something going. Her to be exclusive is most definitely a sign.

As for answering her questions about your relationships, I think she lost all input by walking away. You need to learn tact. She asked you a question but the answer doesnt matter. She was checking in with you. Did you ask her the same question? She said she hasn't seen anyone seriously. So it sounds like she is doing something casually. She is justifying her behavior and I will bet she will bring this back to you.

IM sorry if this all sounds harsh. Im not trying to be. And Im not a scorned husband either. Things are going well in my relationship but I was very close to being on this end I learned quite a bit about relationships during this time. My Stich is not the same and its quite possible your wife is not seeing someone. But common sense tells me its more than likely.