erynfaye, I have always been there for my kids. I usually give them showers and 3 out of the five mornings my W works, I get them ready for school and my S4 off to the sitter. It's all part of taking care of a family. But, as Sandi pointed out, being a good father doesn't automatically mean I was a good husband. I know I neglected things with W and will try to my last breath to make things right. She just won't see it now. She still has her "friend" that she talks to everyday. I have quit looking at her phone and things, but in our limited conversations, things somtimes pop up that she talked to him or something he said. She has always said it is school business. B.S. If I would have taken a stand a long time ago, maybe I wouldn't be here now. Burt, you're right-it is the right thing to do-every day of our lives. What is more important? Nothing. Flow-We find strength every day that we don't know we have. When I get down, all of you guys help me put things in perspective and pull me up out of my hole. If I hadn't found this place, I don't know where I would be right now. Not in a very good place, I know.
Anyway, this morning, she was distant and pissy with me and the kids. She made eggs and bacon for breakfast while I was in the shower, when I came out, there was none for me. How nice. I didn't say a word, helped the kids get ready and watched the news. We were both in the kitchen when I was leaving for work and I just said, "see ya tonight." She said bye and I left. I didn't go and give her a kiss.
This is pretty easy when things are going good, or at least OK. Pretty hard when they're not. Patience, I'm in it for the long haul. I haven't embraced the suck yet, but I get closer every day. Something has to give.
